Is your wife telling you that she resents your impulsive alcohol addiction?
Is she threatening to leave unless you get help, or worse threatening divorce?
You love your wife and you wouldn’t do anything to intentionally hurt her. Yet, whenever you feel any kind of stress the easiest way for you to cope with it is to escape from it.
The bottle is a quite friend that offers you comfort and escape.
At the same time, the “escape” is costing you your marriage.
You love your wife and you’re trying to stop but with each fight you retreat more and more.
Your wife keeps asking, pleading, even begging you to just talk with her.
But the pain of your past is so deep that instead of talking you just shut down.
What more is there to say?
She won’t understand anyway and she’ll just apply more pressure.
What can you do to save your marriage?
Is it Simple Enough to Say “Stop” Drinking and All Your Problems Will Be Solved?
Our choices come with consequences, both good and bad. Alcoholism is a disease and before you can stop drinking you have to get honest with yourself.
What is there to be honest about?
Alcohol Addiction Distorts Your Mind
The influence of addiction and drunkenness changes who we are, what we do and provides us cover for bad choices.
Proverbs 20:1 says; “Wine is a mocker, strong drink a brawler, and whoever is led astray by it is not wise.”
Proverbs 23:29-35 says; “Who has woe? Who has sorrow? Who has strife? Who has complaining? Who has wounds without cause? Who has redness of eyes? Those who tarry long over wine; those who go to try mixed wine. Do not look at wine when it is red, when it sparkles in the cup and goes down smoothly. In the end it bites like a serpent and stings like an adder. Your eyes will see strange things, and your heart utter perverse things. …”
You have to be honest with yourself and realize that your alcohol addiction brings out the worst in you, especially when you’re hurting.
Your painful emotions and hurts don’t just seep out, the pour out like an open wound leaving those who love you the most the ones who feel the brunt of your hurts and pains.
Wisdom is found in God and God’s wisdom is the kind of wisdom that requires we do right not just by him or our loved ones, but also by ourselves.
Burying your pain and escaping to the bottle is not the answer to your problems, it’s become the root cause.
When your hurt and under the influence, Proverbs 23 reminds us that “your eyes will see strange things…”
It’s a reminder that our judgment is clouded and that the addiction causes us to see things from a warped point-of-view.
You see your wife as belligerent, threatening, unloving and angry.
What she is really feeling is hurt, fear, disappointment and hopelessness; yet she has hoped as long as she can, hoping you would make a change. Her ultimatum is not intended to kick you while you’re down. It’s meant to get your attention and motivate you to see the severity of your addiction and the havoc it is wrecking in your life and in hers.
Until your honest with yourself, you won’t be able to see the truth, get help or have hope of restoring your broken marriage.
Are You Ready for Help?
Are you tired of the hurt and the pain?
Are you tired of being someone other than who you are?
Are you tired of feeling abandoned and alone?
Here is the good news!
You’re not abandoned and you’re not alone, except by choice.
Your wife may be giving you an ultimatum and if so you would be wise to heed her warning. Get help now before it’s too late.
Don’t be the man who lives in denial and his stubbornness costs him everything… his family, life and dignity.
CrossRoads exists to help men such as yourself and understands exactly what you’re going through.
Joe Tarasuk, the Founder of CrossRoads Freedom Center, has walked in your shoes. He knows your hurts and pains.
But also knows how the freedom that comes with knowing Jesus can set you free.
Joe knows that the road to recovery isn’t an easy one, but it’s a worthwhile one.
With that, we can help you:
If you’re in the mid-Atlantic region (Northern Virginia, Maryland, SE and Central Pennsylvania or Delaware), contact us today and get the help you need.
You can call us at 301-798-2621 and get on the road to recovery before it’s too late and you lose your wife, your life and all that is important to you.